Same Sex Relationship issues

My name is Pan, and I am a relationship manager and sex therapist. While we are finalizing preparations for our opening, I am available to answer any questions you may have.

Finn contacted me on social media regarding his same-sex relationship with his partner, Kai. After entering a committed relationship, Finn and Kai faced challenges when Kai had an affair with another man, which continued in secret until Finn discovered it. Finn described this as devastating. Following the discovery, Kai moved out to live on his own. Finn shared that he still loves Kai but is unsure how to repair their relationship. He acknowledged being possessive and that he sometimes treated Kai poorly. Finn also requested advice on improving their sex life and book recommendations.

Here is my answer:

Dear Finn, thank you for reaching out and for your trust. At this time, I can offer in-depth support once we meet in person after our business opens. I understand that your separation is difficult. It is natural to feel guilt and question your role, but both partners contribute to the dynamics of a relationship. Kai’s actions may reflect his need for freedom, but the pattern of possessiveness and poor treatment is concerning. In any relationship, both partners should feel respected and safe. If these conditions are not present, it may be healthiest to remain apart for now. Please use this time to focus on your own healing and well-being. If you and Kai consider reconnecting, ensure that positive changes have taken place for both of you. If you ever feel unsafe, your safety is the priority, and you should seek help from the authorities if needed. You don’t have to worry, Finn, it's also with straight relationships, and women can also be the monsters and do very wrong things to men.  For resources to improve your intimate life, I am happy to provide recommendations privately, as this is a kid-friendly blog. Please contact me directly if you would like more information. Take care, Finn.

Best regards, Pan